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Recovering Workaholic
Join Date: Aug-2002
Location: Orange County NY
Country: USA
Posts: 647
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Originally Posted by EarthgirlOK
You know what? I'm all for kindness and patience. I do believe in trying to take "the high road." Most of the time, I try to do just that. Sometimes I don't.
But in my line of work, too often I see examples of the antagonist trying to pass as the victim.
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I don't know what you do for a living, but in my line of work as a pastor I see it too.
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A person says and does hurtful or provoking things and then cries foul when others respond in kind. If others try to avoid conflict with this person, s/he believes they are in agreement, and takes it as encouragement to continue poor behavior.
Codependency is not healthy. If a guy wants to leave, let him go.
Kick a guy when he is down? Maybe so. It seems to me more like a guy in a trap (that he laid for himself) chewing off his own leg. Pretty self-destructive if you ask me.
I apologise if I have offended anyone by my latest comments on this thread.
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I don't think you owe anyone an apology. Nobody is begging Fred to stay. I'm certainly not, and I don't feel anyone who has posted on this thread should apologize either. I've been on bonsaiTALK for a couple of years at least, and I have been surprised at the uniformity of response to Fred's self-serving justification and isolation. Being part of a community means listening. He obviously wants to listen only to himself. It's too bad, because I have found some of his posts to be thought-provoking.
Craig Cowing
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I'm not finished yet, neither are my trees.
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